Kendrick Lamar and J Cole like black women with natural hair

In both Kendrick Lamar and J Cole's recent album's, they said that they prefer black women wear their natural hair.

They prefer girls with nappy hair.

They want girls that are sexy but don't show too much.

And I wonder, what are we supposed to do? Change for them? Mold our bodies to fit their changing desires?

Ain't the patriarchy real yall?

They want a good girl who are not like the thots that be on Love and Hip Hop.

Isn't it crazy that hip-hop culture helped create those women on Love and Hip Hop and now notorious voices in hip-hop culture are dropping albums dissing the kind of women that are on Love and Hip-Hop?

Their acts of speech hold such power that it can define and redefine what beauty is.

Somebody told me the other day that wearing weaves in and of themselves isn’t necessarily bad. What is bad is when we convince ourselves we must do so. This made a lot of sense to me. But couldn't we say the same thing about wearing natural hair?

This is no diss to J Cole or Kendrick Lamar. I'm listening to KOD right now as I write this. I'm just saying that if hundreds or thousands of black women change their crown because of the expression of their newfound desires, this should signal to everyone that the patriarchy is freaking real. What is not patriarchy but a black woman performing an identity, performing a particular idea of "woman" or "black" because of what two affluent men said?